[me just adding another tally to "Number of Laps Wave Has Sat On" bc assuming they've been sitting, she's not going to shift back to her own seat.]

I think that's okay. You shouldn't try to make yourself into someone else just to suit some role someone else decided you should be.

But I also think you're assuming that they know they have the choice.

I knew I wanted to stay with Ai way before our worlds were restored. But I didn't know if he'd be open to that. He had his brothers to look after, and his home wasn't exactly welcoming to outsiders... and he never said anything to me one way or another, so I don't know if the option was even there. I can guess, but I'll never know for certain.

So I guess what I'm saying is... I think if you give people the option to choose, you'll be surprised. But you've also got a responsibility to let them know the option's there if they want to take it.